What Men Secretly Want
Let's face it, men can be secretive and this is no secret. Often, they are
coy, uncomfortable, or nervous about your reaction to ask for things they really
want. Here are some things that almost all men want, but almost every one of
them is able to come up with at least one excuse not to ask you for it. In their
inability to communicate what they truly desire, or just their need to act like
a ‘man’ by not telling you, here are some things that men secretly desire.
Attention
Men are a little needier than we expect them to be typically.
They like to be taken care of, and attended to. They like it when you pay
attention to what he says, when you cook them their favorite meals, when you
surprise them for no reason, and when you do nice things for them just because
you wanted to make him smile. Women love it, so why wouldn't men? The problem is
that it's anticipated of a man to do it for a woman, but most men have to ask
for this sort of thing. And you desire it to be voluntary, not done just because
you asked them too... that ruins all the fun.
Adoration
It is in the heart of each person to desire to be adored, and
appreciated for who they are.
Hidden below the show they may put on, men
desire adoration too. Expressing this to him isn't something that he is used to,
and can make him see you on a different level, in a special way.
coy, uncomfortable, or nervous about your reaction to ask for things they really
want. Here are some things that almost all men want, but almost every one of
them is able to come up with at least one excuse not to ask you for it. In their
inability to communicate what they truly desire, or just their need to act like
a ‘man’ by not telling you, here are some things that men secretly desire.
Attention
Men are a little needier than we expect them to be typically.
They like to be taken care of, and attended to. They like it when you pay
attention to what he says, when you cook them their favorite meals, when you
surprise them for no reason, and when you do nice things for them just because
you wanted to make him smile. Women love it, so why wouldn't men? The problem is
that it's anticipated of a man to do it for a woman, but most men have to ask
for this sort of thing. And you desire it to be voluntary, not done just because
you asked them too... that ruins all the fun.
Adoration
It is in the heart of each person to desire to be adored, and
appreciated for who they are.
Hidden below the show they may put on, men
desire adoration too. Expressing this to him isn't something that he is used to,
and can make him see you on a different level, in a special way.
Playfulness
When it comes down to their true nature, most men are silly.
They have just learnt that it can sometimes drive women away, so as a result,
have concealed their goofy side. Believe it or not, being just as playful as him
can be a turn on, as it can make him feel like he can act his true self around
you. Not only that, but it can help him unwind from the stress of whatever he's
facing, as you help let him know that life isn't just about work and stress.
Men may be more terrified of rejection
It's only assumed that because they
aren't as expressive, men don't feel as much as women do. As a result people can
sometimes dismiss how they may be feeling. The truth is that men may be more
afraid of being rejected than they let people know. Men do well in hiding this
behind; a tough act, wealth, muscles, over-confidence, or even sex.
Accepted
Just like women, men have to put on their face after getting up
in the morning, only it isn't a face of make-up. They're expected to; act manly
around their buddies, listen to certain music, not like things that aren't
masculine, and act a certain way. As a result, this show that they put on for
the world only leads them to want being truly accepted for who they are deep
inside. Men want to be accepted for who they are around their soul-mate. If you
can make them feel accepted for who they are, they will begin to view you as a
soul-mate.
When it comes down to their true nature, most men are silly.
They have just learnt that it can sometimes drive women away, so as a result,
have concealed their goofy side. Believe it or not, being just as playful as him
can be a turn on, as it can make him feel like he can act his true self around
you. Not only that, but it can help him unwind from the stress of whatever he's
facing, as you help let him know that life isn't just about work and stress.
Men may be more terrified of rejection
It's only assumed that because they
aren't as expressive, men don't feel as much as women do. As a result people can
sometimes dismiss how they may be feeling. The truth is that men may be more
afraid of being rejected than they let people know. Men do well in hiding this
behind; a tough act, wealth, muscles, over-confidence, or even sex.
Accepted
Just like women, men have to put on their face after getting up
in the morning, only it isn't a face of make-up. They're expected to; act manly
around their buddies, listen to certain music, not like things that aren't
masculine, and act a certain way. As a result, this show that they put on for
the world only leads them to want being truly accepted for who they are deep
inside. Men want to be accepted for who they are around their soul-mate. If you
can make them feel accepted for who they are, they will begin to view you as a
soul-mate.
Be able to loosen up
Men want to be able to unwind and not have to put in
effort into a relationship every now and then. They desire to be able to take
things easy, and not have to impress you. This can mean eating canned food for
dinner, or leaving the dishes for a day without washing them, or just not
dressing up. In their easy going nature they desire their partners to be able to
accept them and allow them to be lazy every now and then.
They don't feel safe to talk about emotions
Where they may not want to
express feelings, they may desire to be able to do so with you safely. To know
that they can cry and be able to trust a woman not to tell others (even her
girlfriends), and to accept him is something he needs. Men have a tough time
showing emotion around others because they relate those times of weakness to
their individuality more than women. This is why they are scared to do so. This
means they have a bigger need to be accepted when they do.
Compounded with
this fear is that women have a tendency to talk a lot with their girlfriends.
This may be okay with you, but not with him. His fear is that if he shows
emotions to you, being a chatty woman, you may accidently blab this to your
friends.
Pleasure
This one is not really a secret. Everyone knows that men love
passion in a relationship, but what you may not know is that they don't always
desire to be the one to begin it. What people forget is that it isn't just about
sex. It's about feeling desired and wanted. This is something that he may be
longing for deep inside.
Men want to be able to unwind and not have to put in
effort into a relationship every now and then. They desire to be able to take
things easy, and not have to impress you. This can mean eating canned food for
dinner, or leaving the dishes for a day without washing them, or just not
dressing up. In their easy going nature they desire their partners to be able to
accept them and allow them to be lazy every now and then.
They don't feel safe to talk about emotions
Where they may not want to
express feelings, they may desire to be able to do so with you safely. To know
that they can cry and be able to trust a woman not to tell others (even her
girlfriends), and to accept him is something he needs. Men have a tough time
showing emotion around others because they relate those times of weakness to
their individuality more than women. This is why they are scared to do so. This
means they have a bigger need to be accepted when they do.
Compounded with
this fear is that women have a tendency to talk a lot with their girlfriends.
This may be okay with you, but not with him. His fear is that if he shows
emotions to you, being a chatty woman, you may accidently blab this to your
friends.
Pleasure
This one is not really a secret. Everyone knows that men love
passion in a relationship, but what you may not know is that they don't always
desire to be the one to begin it. What people forget is that it isn't just about
sex. It's about feeling desired and wanted. This is something that he may be
longing for deep inside.
Being wanted
Men are from Mars and women from Venus right? Sometimes we
forget that we have the same desires to be loved and needed. Every man wants to
be the hero, it was their childhood fantasy. It really makes him feel special,
and cared for, especially if you go over the top and do it to the extremes. It
doesn't have to be constant... just often enough so that he doesn’t think you
forgot him. Try it... it'll make you feel good to. Fulfilling this secret desire
in his heart will cause him to step up and fulfill the desires he knows you
have.
Discovering what men secretly desire may have been a mystery before, but is
well worth the lesson. Understanding what they secretly desire will allow you to
reach them in a way they have never been touched before, making them see you as
something unique. Use it for your benefit.
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What Men Secretly Want
Men are from Mars and women from Venus right? Sometimes we
forget that we have the same desires to be loved and needed. Every man wants to
be the hero, it was their childhood fantasy. It really makes him feel special,
and cared for, especially if you go over the top and do it to the extremes. It
doesn't have to be constant... just often enough so that he doesn’t think you
forgot him. Try it... it'll make you feel good to. Fulfilling this secret desire
in his heart will cause him to step up and fulfill the desires he knows you
have.
Discovering what men secretly desire may have been a mystery before, but is
well worth the lesson. Understanding what they secretly desire will allow you to
reach them in a way they have never been touched before, making them see you as
something unique. Use it for your benefit.
More Interesting Articles:
Spice Up Your Date
What Men Secretly Want