Wondering why some women who are more successful, beautiful, and intellectual
don't find love while others do? But who said that love had to do entirely with
attraction and brains? Here are some reasons why some women get love and others
don't.
Written off too early
The thing about attraction is that most people don't
fall in love at first sight. Sometimes attraction takes time to happen. Writing
him off as unattractive or putting him in the friend zone too early can be
hasty. Most couples are established from friendships and people spending
time together before deciding whether they are attracted to each other or
not.
Independent/ Make him feel desirable
A woman who comes off as independent,
financially, mentally, and in other ways can be what attracts him. We all know
that being too needy can be a turn off. But did we know that being independent
can be a turn-on? An independent woman will not only appeal to the men who want
a low-maintenance girlfriend, but also puts out the vibe that she's strong and
doesn't need him, making him understand that she needs to be pursued.
On the
other end, some men want to be the taking care of type and want to care and
provide for a dependent woman. They want to be needed and esteemed
subconsciously.
What can be useful is a balance and obvious distinction of
both traits.
don't find love while others do? But who said that love had to do entirely with
attraction and brains? Here are some reasons why some women get love and others
don't.
Written off too early
The thing about attraction is that most people don't
fall in love at first sight. Sometimes attraction takes time to happen. Writing
him off as unattractive or putting him in the friend zone too early can be
hasty. Most couples are established from friendships and people spending
time together before deciding whether they are attracted to each other or
not.
Independent/ Make him feel desirable
A woman who comes off as independent,
financially, mentally, and in other ways can be what attracts him. We all know
that being too needy can be a turn off. But did we know that being independent
can be a turn-on? An independent woman will not only appeal to the men who want
a low-maintenance girlfriend, but also puts out the vibe that she's strong and
doesn't need him, making him understand that she needs to be pursued.
On the
other end, some men want to be the taking care of type and want to care and
provide for a dependent woman. They want to be needed and esteemed
subconsciously.
What can be useful is a balance and obvious distinction of
both traits.
Stability
A level-headed woman who knows how to keep her cool, and
maintain her emotional intelligence can be what men find attractive in a woman.
Men aren't going to like drama and do like to keep things easy going, so this is
why they want a stable partner.
Approval, make him feel accepted
Men are captivated to others who make
them feel accepted. A woman who won't expect too much from him or the way he
acts, what she wants from the relationship or the gifts she gets from him. He
wants life to be easy going, so naturally, will want to be with someone who can
keep it that way.
Fits in well with friends/family
Many times a relationship doesn't just
have to do with the couple involved, but with friends and family as well. This
means that most of the time it's not just about the chemistry between the
couple, but how well she fits in with family and friends. Where people may go
through many relationships in life, friends and family are more enduring. So if
he has to make a choice between the two, he can sometime pick his friends over
her, as they're the more lasting of the two.
Fits into his approach to life
Sometimes the chemistry doesn't have to do
with her, but with his approach to life. Many factors can come into play, his
financial situation, their ambitions, traveling, mobility, people he associates
with, and other issues. This means that two people's lifestyles will affect
their chemistry and attraction towards each other. At times it really doesn`t
have to do with her or anything she did, it was just that she didn`t fit into
his lifestyle.
A level-headed woman who knows how to keep her cool, and
maintain her emotional intelligence can be what men find attractive in a woman.
Men aren't going to like drama and do like to keep things easy going, so this is
why they want a stable partner.
Approval, make him feel accepted
Men are captivated to others who make
them feel accepted. A woman who won't expect too much from him or the way he
acts, what she wants from the relationship or the gifts she gets from him. He
wants life to be easy going, so naturally, will want to be with someone who can
keep it that way.
Fits in well with friends/family
Many times a relationship doesn't just
have to do with the couple involved, but with friends and family as well. This
means that most of the time it's not just about the chemistry between the
couple, but how well she fits in with family and friends. Where people may go
through many relationships in life, friends and family are more enduring. So if
he has to make a choice between the two, he can sometime pick his friends over
her, as they're the more lasting of the two.
Fits into his approach to life
Sometimes the chemistry doesn't have to do
with her, but with his approach to life. Many factors can come into play, his
financial situation, their ambitions, traveling, mobility, people he associates
with, and other issues. This means that two people's lifestyles will affect
their chemistry and attraction towards each other. At times it really doesn`t
have to do with her or anything she did, it was just that she didn`t fit into
his lifestyle.
Timing
The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. A great love
has to do with the right timing in life. When; careers, feelings, wants, and
biological clock's align just right. Where the both of them met and were looking
for love in the right time in their lives, that`s when love will strike.
It has to do with luck
Whether it's that they met the right people, or
have a lot of connections, luck can at times be the final dynamic. There's not
much that can be done for luck, except to get yourself out there and meet as
many people as you can, increasing your chances of meeting the right
one.
The people you know
As the saying goes, it's not your abilities in life,
but the connections you have in life. Sometimes finding love has to do with
knowing the right people in life who will set you up with someone like minded.
Getting the word out to your close and trusted friends can help in pairing you
up, as they may know just the right man for you.
Fishing in the right lake
Meeting Mr. Right has to do with searching in
the right places. Meeting the man of your dreams means only looking for him in
places that he will most likely be found. Join clubs and do activities that
emphasize the qualities that you find attractive in the man of your dreams.
Looking for him in the wrong place is just going to misuse your time and could
even distract you with the wrong kind of guy.
Women have different measures on attraction
Women and men have different
standards on what they find attractive. On top of which, everybody's different.
This means that people can have totally unique standards on what they find
attractive about the opposite sex. This is even truer when it comes to the
personality traits that people find attractive in others.
These are the many factors that can contribute to love, and questioning why a
couple has it won`t always give you the answers that will help you find love.
Keep searching, stay optimistic, and keep your hopes up, love will find you
soon.
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The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. A great love
has to do with the right timing in life. When; careers, feelings, wants, and
biological clock's align just right. Where the both of them met and were looking
for love in the right time in their lives, that`s when love will strike.
It has to do with luck
Whether it's that they met the right people, or
have a lot of connections, luck can at times be the final dynamic. There's not
much that can be done for luck, except to get yourself out there and meet as
many people as you can, increasing your chances of meeting the right
one.
The people you know
As the saying goes, it's not your abilities in life,
but the connections you have in life. Sometimes finding love has to do with
knowing the right people in life who will set you up with someone like minded.
Getting the word out to your close and trusted friends can help in pairing you
up, as they may know just the right man for you.
Fishing in the right lake
Meeting Mr. Right has to do with searching in
the right places. Meeting the man of your dreams means only looking for him in
places that he will most likely be found. Join clubs and do activities that
emphasize the qualities that you find attractive in the man of your dreams.
Looking for him in the wrong place is just going to misuse your time and could
even distract you with the wrong kind of guy.
Women have different measures on attraction
Women and men have different
standards on what they find attractive. On top of which, everybody's different.
This means that people can have totally unique standards on what they find
attractive about the opposite sex. This is even truer when it comes to the
personality traits that people find attractive in others.
These are the many factors that can contribute to love, and questioning why a
couple has it won`t always give you the answers that will help you find love.
Keep searching, stay optimistic, and keep your hopes up, love will find you
soon.
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